I remember so well the feeling at the end of my 25 year Corporate career. I just don’t fit.
The pressure to fit in can be immense. It can be like learning a new language. I still have clients who say “I just don’t speak Corporate”. The balance between conformity and individually is a struggle, or at least I believe it is.
While allying with the collective can give you a sense of belonging and teamwork, it can also come at a cost.
What we gain
The ability to collaborate – One of the biggest advantages of the corporate world is learning to work well with others. Shared norms and values can create a sense of unity, making it easier to work as a cohesive team.
Learning and progression – Advancement isn’t always about financial gain. Many of us, me included are driven by learning and opportunities for knowledge. The Corporate world can certainty offer gains. Employees who “fit in” are often seen as team players, increasing their visibility and opening doors to promotions and growth opportunities.
Social connection – Belonging to a group satisfies a fundamental human need. In my 20s and 30s I had so much fun and built lasting friendships with people I met at work. The idea of conforming does help to navigate and build relationships, which can be crucial for emotional well-being and job satisfaction.
What we lose
Our authenticity – Despite nowadays always being asked to “bring our authentic selves to work”, I genuinely don’t believe many leaders know what this means. If they do, I haven’t seen evidence it as yet. The need to conform and fit in often forces us to suppress parts of ourselves. This can lead to a disconnect between one’s professional persona and personal identity, causing dissatisfaction and a feelings of confusion. I remember distinctly questioning the morality of executive decisions and whether messaging was factual or complete BS. Needless to say I was asked to “tow the line”. In other words conform!
Mental health – When we are expected to suppress our true selves to fit in, it can lead to mental and emotional exhaustion. This long-term strain not only affects productivity but can also have a significant impact on mental health.
Stifled creativity – Diverse perspectives are the essence of innovation. If we always “tow the party line” we lose the opportunity for creative solutions and genuine purpose. How can an organisation really be purpose led if they silence anyone who dares to question or think differently?
How to stay authentic
It is important to learn and adapt to certain corporate norms for professional success, however, authenticity should never be sacrificed entirely. Here are practical ways to remain true to yourself while thriving in the corporate world:
Leverage your strengths – Instead of trying to blend in completely, focus on what makes you stand out. Share your unique skills, experiences, or perspectives in ways that align with the organisation’s goals. Authenticity doesn’t always have to clash with fitting in.
Know your core value(s) – Identify what really matters to you. Check out our values exercise for help with that. What principles guide your decisions? By having a clear understanding of your core values, you’ll be better equipped to navigate situations that test your authenticity. Use these values as a compass to determine when to adapt or compromise and when to stand firm.
Create those boundaries – A line in the sand is really important. Determine your non-negotiables, the stuff you just won’t compromise on. Be conscious about what circumstances test your boundaries so you can be prepared to stand firm.
Self-Care – Staying authentic can feel like an uphill battle sometimes. Make time for activities outside of work that allow you to express yourself freely and recharge your emotional batteries. Self-care is essential for maintaining a strong sense of identity.
Fitting in doesn’t have to mean losing yourself; authenticity can be a professional asset. In the end, the most successful environments are those that leverage the unique skills of every individual, bringing those talents together for a common purpose. When authenticity and individuality becomes the norm, everyone thrives.
Kirsty Ritchie, Jan 2025
